About a year ago, I wrote about a blog called Israel 2046 . "Shai," the 28 year-old Israeli who created incredibly imaginative posts about a border-less, peaceful Middle East forty years hence, was someone I met via the Internet. After reading some of his wise and perceptive comments on a now defunct blog, called Palestinian Princess, I left a comment in Hebrew (sorry Lucy, that was a bit rude;) in which I asked him to send me an email.
We exchanged notes, then phone calls, and finally we met at a cafe near Rothschild Boulevard and talked for hours, as if we had known one another for years.
He died today, after a long struggle with cancer.
When I met him for the first time, in the spring of 2006, he was already very sick - bald and jaundiced from chemotherapy. But he lived a life that was fuller than that of most healthy people. He had traveled around the world, he was always surrounded by friends, he somehow managed to read the entire Internet every day, he studied at university and he never, ever refused a favour - especially if it was geek-related, because he was the ultimate geek who could find a creative solution for any computer or Internet-related issue you could think of. He was also a pragmatic idealist with a huge heart, amazing powers of observation and a dry sense of humour.
He never, ever complained about being sick. When he was in bed recovering from chemotherapy, he sent me emails several times a week. He was always curious and engaged, always planning his next project. Once he told me that his oncologist wanted him to have his vocal chords removed, but he had refused because he was too young. "I want to get married and have kids first," he said, even though he didn't have a girlfriend at the time. He was so strong, so utterly lacking in self-pity, and so completely convinced that he was going to recover, that I simply believed he would. It did not seem possible that someone so determined to live, could die.
In one of his last emails, sent just a few days ago, he asked if I had heard of Hometown Baghdad, a web documentary made by middle class university students living in Baghdad. He wanted to know if I thought it was feasible to do a similar project with Israeli and Palestinian university students. Below is his response to my last email:
I thought it might catch your interest, wow, doing it for real is
something that I'd be very interested in, but it might be a long time
until i am able.
The operation i ended up having was better as i didn't lose my vocal
chords, but by some rotten luck they stopped working about a week
before, so right now i can't talk, but since i still have them, I'll
work on it and find a way...(I can't eat right now either, so don't
bring chocolate :), flowers and hugs are always welcome)
I'm still tired most of the time and i don't really like having
visitors at my parents house, but as soon as I'm up for it, i promise
to come visit you in Tel Aviv.
Hmmm, yeah the more the idea settles the more i think i actually would
love to be involved with some sort of documentary similar to the Iraqi
one, i don't know what skills i have that would lend to it, but it
could be great. (If you think there is a chance pushing on with this
now, don't wait for me and miss it though).
I don't think editing would be much of a problem, I don't know about
the cameras... maybe you'd like to email the producers of Hometown
Baghdad for tips?
I wasn't quite prepared to feel as bad as I do at this moment. I wish he had let me visit him last week. The world is a much, much poorer place without him. And I am going to miss him so much.
"Shai" means "gift" in Hebrew. It wasn't his real name, but it was an appropriate one.
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Nick
on Sun 24 Jun 2007 01:32 AM IDT | Profile | Permanent Link
Dear Lisa,
What a beautiful tribute to a dear friend. My thoughts are with you and Shai. May his memory be a blessing. Warm regards, Nick Re: Death of a beautiful young dreamer
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lisoosh
on Sun 24 Jun 2007 03:03 AM IDT | Profile | Permanent Link
What a terrible shame. I used to read his old blog, he did great write-ups of popular culture and Israeli bands. He would also write some pretty astute political pieces. I was just rereading it the other day.
My sympathies, and how sad for his parents to lose a child. That's someone else...
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JSinger
on Mon 25 Jun 2007 05:01 PM IDT | Permanent Link
I think you're thinking of a different Shai -- that one is alive, well and on a new blog. (Which I'd link, except that I got the sense he's trying to distance himself from the Israel-blog crowd.)
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lisoosh
on Tue 26 Jun 2007 06:33 PM IDT | Profile | Permanent Link
Oops. Well tell him I liked his pop culture series. And I'm glad he's not dead.
Re: Death of a beautiful young dreamer
Thank you for remembering Shai's incredible life and gifts. What a heavy loss, and I am so sorry.
Re: Death of a beautiful young dreamer
Oh no. This is devastating news. I never had the good fortune to meet him but through his blog last year he inspired so much hope. During the darkest days of the war last summer I found myself going back to his blog again and again. It was a needed lifeline to hope for the future. You wrote beautifully of him, as always, Lis--thank you.
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Rabbi Sedley
on Sun 24 Jun 2007 02:12 PM IDT | Permanent Link
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adina
on Sun 24 Jun 2007 06:34 PM IDT | Profile | Permanent Link
I am so saddened to hear this. shai sounded like such a beautiful person.
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Perpetually Saddened
on Mon 25 Jun 2007 01:07 PM IDT | Permanent Link
He seemed like a special person.
If we only achieve 10% of what he imagined, then perhaps that would be the greatest 'Shai'. Re: Death of a beautiful young dreamer
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Lori
on Tue 26 Jun 2007 07:39 AM IDT | Permanent Link
Lisa - thanks for making me Reply
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lirun
on Tue 26 Jun 2007 07:05 PM IDT | Permanent Link
איזה קסם של בן אדם - יהיה זכרו ברוך
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Anonymous
on Tue 26 Jun 2007 07:55 PM IDT | Permanent Link
All of us at Hometown Baghdad read your post with tremendous sadness. We are so sorry for your loss. The world cannot afford to lose such great people like Shai. The rest of us must now work even harder. We have indeed been thinking about a project similar to the one Shai described. It is a shame that we will never get to work with him on it.
-Mike, Hometown Baghdad Re: Death of a beautiful young dreamer
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Free Cedar
on Wed 27 Jun 2007 03:49 PM IDT | Permanent Link
It is with great sorrow that I read your post Lisa. I still can't believe it; just as you, I believed he would make it through. But life decided differently.
This is a great loss. May he rest in peace; he surely deserves it. An incredible soul, with rare positivity and optimism. He will be missed. All my condolences to his family and loved ones. Re: Re: Death of a beautiful young dreamer
Baruch dayan emet.
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noni
on Thu 28 Jun 2007 07:25 PM IDT | Permanent Link
Lisa,
I had to Google you cause I wanted to make sure you knew about it and found out this most wonderful piece describing him so well, indeed as if you had known each other for ages. Can I pass a copy to his parents? And as for the project, if you need any help let me know. Noni (I donno if you remember me from the party we had at the appartment when we moved to TLV) Re: Death of a beautiful young dreamer
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Anonymous
on Sun 01 Jul 2007 11:41 PM IDT | Permanent Link
"shai" was one of my best friends for years, and yet i did not know about this project - he had so many. indeed he was special and amazing, and i still can't believe he isn't here and i can't talk to him. but it's comforting to know he had so many pepole reading his ideas and it's as if he is still alive in the heart and memory of those pepole, who didn't even know him. i can't believe he isn't here. i miss him so much, every day!!!
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