A few clarifications, if you'll allow me. "when he struggled to overcome his racist feelings toward Jews." Actually, that's a bit unfair. I never had racist feelings toward Jews. I had racist feelings towards Israel and Israelis. That is obvious from my posts. There is a clear distinction between the two. This moves me on the seamlessly to the next point. "and I began to wonder if he saw me as ‘Lisa, my friend’ or ‘Lisa, my Jewish friend’. I suspected it was the latter," Former, actually. "On the final night of what turned out to be his last visit (although we didn’t know that at the time)" 2nd last visit (although I didn't know that at the time). I'd be more than happy to open another bottle of wine (or two) and discuss things in much more detail. I know a great place run by Lesbians that reminds me of Beirut. Off the record of course. You're right. Some people don't like to be publicly exposed, even behind a 'nom de blog'.